Network effects

I splurged on my wedding. My rationale was that there are only two times you get close to having your whole network in one place, your wedding and your funeral. I’ll now amend that to include a third event – getting diagnosed with cancer.

For all that’s horrible about this there are benefits to having cancer if you know where to look…

First, the amount of support I’ve received in the past few weeks, not only from friends and family, but friends of friends is inspiring. I am deeply grasping the power of this force – it has a life of it’s own and inspires me.

Second, openness to pain and sadness allow us to connect in a deeper way with our fellow humans. Not only do I resolve to win this battle with strength & grace, but in victory to re-orient toward giving & contribution (less me, more we!).  I’m touched by Clayton Christensen’s note in How will you measure your life, “I’ve concluded that the metric by which God will assess my life isn’t dollars but the individual people whose lives I’ve touched.”